Thought: How often do you tell the people who have influenced you the most that they were a meaningful part of your development as a person?
Rarely, if at all. Maybe you just can’t reach them, or you just decide not to.
Either way, we don’t tell our influencers that they influenced us.
Even just telling your friends, family, that you appreciate them is not a common thing for us to do.
Gratitude is rare.
Now, think about how many people YOU have personally positively affected… And how many of those people have chosen NOT to tell you. Probably most of them. Maybe they can’t reach you or have chosen to stay silent. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t being a positive vibe.
This thought drives me to continue being the best version of myself, both knowingly and unknowingly positively influencing others on the way.
The best and ONLY thing we should do is continue striving for greatness–however you define that term. Good Luck.
I recently started the classic self-improvement book: How to Win Friends and Influence People. Here are the first three principles discussed.
Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain
Sharp criticism of other people doesn’t work.
People will always try and justify their wrongdoings, and condemn you back for sharp criticism. Sharp criticism is more like a homing pigeon >>> will always come back to you
Principle 2: Give honest sincere appreciation
Fear the friend who flatters you. This flattery can often be seen as manipulative or insincere/fake. Instead, look for people who offer genuine appreciation and praise, and do so yourself.
Principle 3: Arouse an eager want in people.
Bait the hook for what they want, not what YOU want.
The only sustainable way to get people to do things is to make them want to do it. Do not however create manipulation; create a mutual beneficial situation
Henry Ford once said:
“If there is any one secret to success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own”